There are moments in life where you feel really alone and when you do you often want to isolate yourself. This may sound like it helps, when life’s getting messy and annoying you think getting away from it all would help don’t you?
Well I believe that there is a second option. This option isn’t to shy away from life but it is to face it head on.
To do this we must start by realising that it is not life that is letting you down it is your environment. It is what your surround yourself with. It looks dull, you dislike it, you don’t like the people etc.
I’m here to tell you that life is full of beauty and happiness and the reason you can’t see that is because you’re not actively looking for it. Think about it, did you wake up this morning and think to yourself ‘Today I’m going to explore and appreciate nature’ or ‘wow there is so much to be grateful for’? Did you make a conscious decision to do something that makes you happy or be a happier person?
Life is going to get in the way of course and we can’t stop it but what we can do is choose to let go of those bad moments and not hold onto them.
I want you to ask yourself something: if you walked into a shop and saw two tops, one was the worst looking top you’ve ever seen and the other is the best looking top you’ve ever seen, which one would you pick up?
You’d pick up the best looking top! Why? Because as humans we go for the options that make us the happiest and that please us. Negativity is a bad top. You wouldn’t buy it, you wouldn’t even pick it up so why are you choosing to hold onto it? Why are you choosing to let it weigh you down? What exactly you do think the outcome of it will be? What do you want the outcome of it to be?
You see a lot of things make sense in the world just like a lot of things do not. For example it makes sense that if you’re sad you should do something that makes you happy. But it doesn’t make sense that someone else would make you sad for their own benefit or that bad things naturally happen that hurt people and cause sadness.
It know that choosing to find happiness can sound like the easiest thing but when it’s put into practice it is in fact very difficult. That’s because we are retraining our brains to seek happiness before anything else. It’s because we have stepped out of our comfort zones.
The way people speak about stepping out of our comfort zones make it sound like it is a rare occurrence. I don’t believe that. I believe that everyone has stepped out of their comfort zone at least once in their lifetime. The issue is that people often turn back rather that persevering.
As you step out of your comfort zone, as you step out to go find happiness don’t turn back. Don’t freak out. It’s going to be uncomfortable but that initial step is the hardest and in fact you’ll already be half way there. I believe you are worth it and I hope you believe it to.