I feel as though many of you already know what’s coming. It is a topic that is thankfully spoken about a lot recently. I have my own thoughts on it and I feel the need to voice these. I have always wanted a platform and a following large enough to allow me to have my say in the world and try promote positive vibes. This blog is no where near the size I know it will be one day but we will get there, I know it.
Anyway, social media. I have a love/hate relationship with it. Social media is an amazing platform. It allows us to connect with people across the world, meet like-minded individuals, learn about anything and everything from cultures, religions, lifestyles etc. Social media is what my generation has grown up around. It is a beautiful sight to see so many people talking about what the latest trend is, sharing their opinions and creating friendships.
Now as good as this is, it can take an ugly turn. Very easily. This happens when people use their platform and their voice to spread negativity and hate.
Now I have three main points that I want to get across;
- The wrong use of feminism.
- Judging other peoples choices in life.
- This “Perfect Life” we see being promoted.
Firstly, feminism. I am a feminist don’t get me wrong, I’m all for equal rights, woman power etc. However recently as I scroll through Twitter I see more and more girls using women power to say derogatory terms towards guys and laughing about it and thinking it is ok. They are taking the whole woman power to the wrong level. They think that they have the right to call guys “clapped” (I CANNOT STAND THIS TERM!!!) and speak negatively about them but if they see the same comment from a guy about girls then they would jump on them and say how hurtful and not right that is.
I love that social media gives us a voice, I really do. This blog is a part of social media and I am so grateful for it however some people are using their voice for the wrong reasons. They’re a contradiction to themselves. I see tweets from people on Twitter that are indirectly so hurtful towards people yet a few months ago I will admit I would hang onto every word because I saw that 1000+ other people thought the same and 800+ people wanted other people to think like that. I was so invested in other peoples lives as they were an escape from my own that I would listen and agree to all of them. Now I realise just how wrong it is because so many people follow social media and seek advice and guidance from it and if they see multiple tweets like this they will agree with them and think the same.
I see so many people promoting positive vibes and how we should choose our own path in life yet at the same time they ‘advise’ us on things to do and ways to act. Each comment, tweet etc is a contradiction of the last. Unfortunately often we are blind to the way people promote a perfect life. We see tweets and statuses and pictures on the perfect look, way of life, outfits and make-up etc. and we go out trying to be just like what we see and we think its our own choice and that we are happy with what we are doing. In reality we aren’t. We are so in touch with social media that we believe we’re happy doing what other people are doing and we don’t realise how far it is from what actually makes us happy until we actually stop and think about life in such a way that we dig deep inside to see what really makes us happen and we realise that these images we are trying so hard to recreate aren’t actually what makes us happy.
This is what happened to me. I used social media and other peoples lives on the internet to escape my own and to follow what they suggested for the best life and I thought I was content and living my own life. I was doing what they said yet still claiming that I was in control of my own life. I realised how far it was from the real me, I realised just how much I lacked control in my life.
I want to tell you all, tell whoever is reading this that you don’t need to follow social media to be happy. Being happy is not about living this picture perfect life you see being promoted. At the end of the day we really don’t know what is going on behind closed doors and everyone is going through their own problems in life. They may look like they’re living the life you have always wanted to live but that is because they’re only showing you the good parts. No one has the perfect life and you are at the end of the day in control of your own life. Take time away from social media to realise exactly what makes you happy. If you are anything like me you may realise you have been denying something in your life that could make you the happiest person in the world simply because it does not fit everything you see being posted. I am so grateful that I did realise what makes me happy and who makes me happy before it was too late.
Remember that you are only living life for yourself. At the end of the day you create the life you are going to live, no one else. Don’t allow yourself to be controlled, manipulated or made to do certain things that you know make you unhappy.
Blog ya later x